Playing to win or playing to lose

Playing to win or playing to lose
We see a familiar pattern in boardrooms. At some point, the conversation splits: those who play to win, and those who play not to lose.
Both positions are understandable. We encounter them in many leadership teams, often side by side. Especially when pressure is high and the environment is uncertain.
And then something subtle happens. The attention shifts. The conversation slowly moves away from the work itself and settles on positions, preferences, and different ways of dealing with risk and uncertainty.
That has led us to ask a different question. If winning feels too narrow, and defending feels too limited, what is the third option?

We call it playing to realize.Not as a model or a technique, but as an orientation. It starts by staying close to the work and asking what this situation is asking for. What needs to take shape here, even when that is not yet clear or feels uncomfortable.

This changes the quality of the conversation. There is less debate and more listening. More willingness to sit with not knowing. And more curiosity about the perspectives and the context of others.

Leadership, in this space, is not about pushing forward or holding back. It is about responsibility. About acknowledging what no longer works and staying present while the system shifts.
This is the work we explore in our Board Reviews.

Dit bericht hoort bij een serie coachingvignetten waarin de ‘Ruthless Compassion’ van NGL verschillende facetten van leiderschap belicht.

Je kunt deze gesprekken ook volgen op onze LinkedIn pagina.

Bercan Günel | Mariëlle de Macker | Vincent Moolenaar | Ron De Mos | Jeanine Tijhaar | Dorine Wekking

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